- Being IgnoredOne of the key ways most women judge how important they are to their partner is by how much attention they get from him when expressing concerns and opinions.Women are turned off when men act like other things are more important or more interesting, or when they casually dismiss something that’s important to a woman. And when men show interest in the beginning of a relationship but then switch gears as things progress, a woman’s attraction for him often takes a dive too.2. More Swagger than SubstanceMen who talk a big game but can’t follow through don’t rank high on the attractive meter. Almost every woman has met some guy at a bar who ends up loudly talking about his work/house/car/sports team so that everyone can hear him. Even worse, he’s the one who picks you up in a rented BMW, pretending he owns it.